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Tips for a good opening message?

RiverAndRoad16 Nov 2025, 01:35

I'll admit I'm not great at this bit. Tend to either write an essay or just say hello and nothing else, neither of which seems to land particularly well. Any advice from people who do this better than me?

Harlow8816 Nov 2025, 01:35

Mention something specific from their profile rather than a generic hello, makes it obvious you actually read it. Doesn't need to be long.

CoastalCafe16 Nov 2025, 01:35

This. A proper question about something in their profile works so much better than hey how are you.

CoastalCafe12 Dec 2025, 09:10

Referencing something specific from their profile works far better than a generic opener, in my experience.

QuietStorm26 Jan 2026, 17:04

Mentioning something specific from the profile rather than a generic hello goes a long way, from what I notice.

NorthernLight29 Jan 2026, 09:31

Second this, generic openers are the easiest ones to ignore.

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